Hi internet. This will be a short post because it is 12:09 am, and I am spending my day with a really cute red headed ONE YEAR OLD tomorrow, so I need to be well rested! I have a lot of random energy though, and also I wanted to rant at you for a second. About getting advice. I love love love getting advice. I would prefer to get it if I ask for it, though. Otherwise, I really would rather not be getting it. This is happening today on Facebook. With very very sweet and wonderful people. People I love. I don't want to be bitchy and say things like "I SWEAR I HAVE RESEARCHED THE EVER-LOVING SHIT OUT OF THIS SUBJECT*!" but that is indeed what I feel like saying. I try not to be that person, even though I am sure my family would tell you I AM that person. Because I am. To them. I don't mind being bitchy to them.
On that note- we decided not to find out the sex of our baby and some people don't understand that.
I understand not understanding, because I hate surprises. Really, I do. I used to be the person who didn't understand not finding out the sex of your unborn baby. The thing is, I don't want people putting my kid in a little "boy" or "girl" box before (s)he is even born. It's going to happen anyway, no matter what I do, as soon as we announce that we have a girl! Or a boy! The pink or blue will inevitably start rolling in, and while pink and blue are lovely colors, they are fit for any child, girl or boy. I don't understand why one is supposedly more "gender-specific" than the other. My kid will look so super awesome in any color under the sun. I will happily dress hir in any color under the sun. Clothes will be more for convenience than cute-factor, anyway. Texas is hot, so a cloth diaper and a t-shirt will be suitable and extremely adorable clothing. Do I care what color the t-shirt is? No. Not even a teeeeny tiny bit. *Sigh* okay. Rant over (is it?).
(no) It's just kind of frustrating when people don't get how I will be "prepared" without knowing the sex of my child. I do not feel like knowing the sex of my child will prepare me. Babies are babies. They're all different, regardless of their genitals. We already know any male children of ours will be kept intact the way nature intended, so no need to find out to make that "tough" decision. If an ultrasound could look inside me and tell the temperament of my unborn child, that might help me be more prepared. Otherwise?...
Okay Mom's who read my blog (there must be at least a few of you!!) Please comment and tell me- did knowing the sex of your child before (s)he was born help you feel more prepared? Our "nursery"** theme is Rockstars & Rainbows (we have leftover wedding crap that can be re-purposed) and we feel that is an appropriate theme for a boy or a girl. Did it help you feel more connected to your child? I can understand that logic, if so. I don't feel like I will be more connected one way or the other, but I can see how some might.
Not knowing isn't for everyone, am I overreacting because people are driving me crazy and my hormones are all over the place?
Thanks for your feedback.
....So much for a short post. Sorry no pictures!
...Also today I am 16 weeks pregnant! 16 Weeks on the 16th! Woo!
**the baby will share our room, but will have it's own half, that I am excited to decorate. The rest of the house will be baby-friendly, too. My kid won't have hir own room until (s)he's at least a year or two old. All of this is subject to change at any time. The end.